We have talked a lot about the characteristics and manifestations of a good man before. If you can find a good man, that is your good fortune. So, when you meet a good man, don’t miss him easily.
However, in this vast world, there are all kinds of wonders. But on the road of love, one will always encounter a few people who are not so satisfactory. So apart from good men, do you know men who deceive and play with women’s feelings?
Recently, I saw a girl write a very long article about her unfortunate experience. In her words, she was already physically and mentally exhausted. The purpose of the consultation was to hope that we could help her get over the pain of a broken relationship quickly.
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Her boyfriend is nine years older than her, graduated from junior high school, is divorced, has no regular job and idles away his time all day long. This girl graduated from a key university, has an average appearance and figure, and earns a decent income. At the beginning, the man took the initiative to pursue the girl, saying all kinds of sweet words and giving her all kinds of small gifts to make her happy.
Having no romantic experience, she couldn’t resist the temptation of the sugar-coated bullets. In the second month, she agreed to the man’s pursuit, but that was just the beginning of that nightmarish life. The man began to constantly torture the girl, demanding money from her, controlling her life, undermining her confidence, often beating and scolding her, and forcing her not to break up, or else he would kill her. The long-term torture has left her physically and mentally exhausted, with severe depression and suicidal tendencies.
After receiving the submitted case, our company attached great importance to it. Through rigorous and meticulous inquiries, we formulated the best plan to assist the client. Now, the girl has become one of our students and is gradually returning to a normal life.
Having said all this, I think the so-called man who deceives and plays with women’s feelings must be the ex-boyfriend of the girl in our case. He is lazy and extremely violent. Since men who deceive and play with women’s feelings are so detestable, how can you tell if a person is such a man? Today, Xiao Su is here to teach you the methods to identify men who deceive and play with women’s feelings.
If your partner has even just one trait, there must be risks in your relationship. If your partner has at least three characteristics, it indicates that you have fallen into a high-risk relationship with a man who deceives and plays with women’s feelings, and you are likely to get hurt in the end. If your partner possesses most of the following characteristics, it is no longer a “possible” or “very likely” issue. If you continue to maintain the relationship with him, you will be seriously hurt by him.
Which are the manifestations of men who deceive and play with women’s feelings?
He/She has a very bad temper
If your boyfriend sometimes suddenly loses his temper and does the following dangerous things – speeding when going crazy, damaging objects, throwing things, fighting, or threatening others – this anger will eventually be vented on you one day. In the initial stage of a romantic relationship, you will “witness violence” – they fight with others, threaten others, get furious with others, and so on. At the beginning, he would swear that he would not vent his hostility and violence on you, but he deliberately made it clear to you that if you offended him one day, he would be able to do the same to you.
2. Gluttonous and lazy, always eating soft food
Generally speaking, if a man is lazy and gluttonous, indulges in mobile phone and computer games all day long, or is constantly playing mahjong and poker, he must be a man who deceives and plays with women’s feelings. Moreover, they usually act arrogantly in front of you and lose their temper with you at the slightest provocation. As long as you do something wrong, they will roar non-stop. You often spend your money but are too lazy to earn it yourself, feeling too tired. When you encounter such a person, don’t think that being a virgin can make him start anew. Just leave him. Why bother to put so much effort into disciplining someone else’s husband?
3. Treat you roughly
If he twists your arm, pulls your hair, kicks you, pushes you, or damages your personal belongings, even just once, leave them immediately.
4. Repeatedly and frequently belittle you and wipe out your confidence
He will constantly correct your minor mistakes and faults, making you feel nervous all the time, thinking that you are stupid and always doing wrong things. He will tell you that you are too fat, unattractive, speak in the wrong way, or poorly. After he gradually eroses your confidence and self-esteem, he can do whatever he wants to you – as if he did it because you were too bad. In public, you walk on thin ice – always afraid of saying the wrong thing or doing the wrong thing, which may cause him to explode in anger or have a fierce quarrel.
5. His behavior alternates between abuse and consideration
At the beginning of the cycle, he deliberately hurt you and abused you. You will be scolded, cursed and threatened for some trivial matters. The next day, he will suddenly become very gentle and considerate, doing many things for you just as you did when you first started dating. So you stayed, hoping that this sading-consideration cycle would be the last. Another consequence of the abusive period is that it gives him the opportunity to make bad comments about you or the people you care about, once again eroding your self-esteem and confidence. He often apologizes desperately afterwards, but your self-esteem has already been hurt – and that’s exactly his plan.
If he gets angry or does something wrong himself, he will turn around and blame you
When he deceives you, shouts at you, is very bad to you, destroys your belongings, or publicly humiliates you – somehow all of this becomes your fault, the result you caused.
7. Panic because of your thought of breaking up – unless the breakup was entirely his idea, then he will throw you away like throwing a hot stone
When you propose to end the relationship, an abusive boyfriend often breaks down and cries. He will plead with you, swear that he will definitely change, and express his willingness to marry you, travel with you, and give you gifts. He might threaten to commit suicide or resign and leave this place – as if you were responsible for his decision. They will bombard you with phone calls, often one every five minutes, hoping that you will give in or meet them, even if it’s just to stop the phone harassment. Some people will call your relatives, your friends, his friends, or anyone they can think of – just to get these people to call you and convey how much they love you.
8. Urge you to give up foreign interests
A man who deceives and plays with women’s feelings will encourage you to give up your hobbies, interests, and interactions with others. If you want to do something by yourself, he will insist on staying with you, making you feel terrible throughout the whole process. His motivation for doing so is to prevent you from having hobbies that he cannot fully control.
9. Keep checking on your posts, always keeping track of where you are and who you are with.
If you talk to the opposite sex, he will ask 20 questions, such as how you knew him. If you don’t answer his call, he will interrogate you about where you are, what you are doing, who you are talking to, and so on and so forth.
Some people will follow you to a certain store, pretend not to know afterwards, and ask if you have bought something somewhere in order to catch whether you are lying. In serious cases, they will peek at your letters, search your wallet, dial the redial button on your phone, and even rummage through your junk to search for evidence.
10. He will make you feel that you are never doing well enough
The “I love you” you say is never enough. When you stand, you don’t get close enough. Your return for his “sacrifice” is far from enough. Your actions are always far from what you expect. This is another way to destroy your self-esteem and self-confidence. After training like this for several months, he will start to tell you how lucky you are to have found a partner like him – that he can tolerate someone as incompetent and worthless as you.
11. Your friends and relatives don’t like him
Once your romantic relationship with a man who deceives and plays with women’s feelings continues, your friends and relatives will notice how he treats you. They will notice that even your temperament has changed. Maybe you have begun to avoid interpersonal communication. They will warn you, express anxiety, and then he will tell you that they are jealous of the “special love” you have.
12. A bad story
A person with a sense of humor will tell stories about self-mockery and funny tales. Men who deceive and play with women’s feelings tell stories about violence, aggression, indifference, and rejection of others. He might describe his past romantic relationships to you. No matter who he was with, he would emphasize that it was the other person who betrayed or hurt him, while he was very kind to them. He would brag about his hot temper because he didn’t think violent tendencies were wrong in the first place. In fact, he is quite proud of his attitude of “I’m fearless of everything”.
How to determine if a person is a man who deceives and plays with women’s feelings? There are many ways to identify a man who deceives and plays with women’s feelings. Xiao Su won’t list them all here. As long as the above points are met, he is basically a man who deceives and plays with women’s feelings.
Girls, if you come across such men, it’s best to detour. If he dumps you, you should feel relieved that you are finally free instead of foolishly thinking about how to win back your ex-boyfriend. If he is still pestering you, please cut off all contact with him immediately. For a man who deceives and plays with women’s feelings, it’s never too late to leave!
