It’s better to be together for a long time than to be in love at first sight. This should be a phrase often said by couples in love. But when it comes to marriage, the duration of a relationship is not that long.
After getting married, the two of you spend every day together. It can be said that when you want to meet, you are together. Sometimes, even when you want a little personal space, you are still together. In this state of being together all the time, often in the end, many people will choose to “run away”. So, what exactly should we do and how should we get along to better manage our marriage?
How to get along better to manage a marriage – Managing a marriage
For Qing, who has been married for four or five years, her current marital life is completely different from what she had envisioned before getting married. Before getting married, she was so eager to get married. Her boyfriend was very kind and considerate to her, and she was also very happy and content when she was with him. I always feel that there are endless things to talk about and endless tasks to do between the two of us. It’s truly true that as long as I’m with my boyfriend, everything I do is happy.
Then, what about after getting married? In the first year of their marriage, it was indeed as she had imagined: happy, fulfilling and joyful. However, as time went by, the feelings between them, as well as the joy and pleasure they once had, seemed to be slowly fading away. Wasn’t it my original dream to be together every day? Why did so many problems arise after it was achieved?
Marriage is different from falling in love. It was only later that Qing finally understood. However, she felt that it was not too late for her to understand, because everything was still in time to be remedied. In a relationship, the focus is on attraction, while in marriage, it is more about getting along. Qing felt that it was necessary for her to change the way she got along with her partner in marriage. Otherwise, it wouldn’t just be a matter of an unhappy marriage; rather, the two of them might very well part ways.
First, don’t neglect your image in each other’s eyes just because you have been together for a long time. A study has been conducted abroad. If a couple lives together and doesn’t pay attention to their image in front of each other, for instance, they don’t brush their teeth in the morning, don’t dress up, and look messy in front of each other, then the probability of their divorce will increase. Although the relationship between the two has become very close after getting married, it is still very important to maintain a good image in front of each other.
Second, pay attention to the fun in getting along. Many people say they like a plain and ordinary life. It sounds wonderful when said, but in fact, if it’s too plain, it will be dull. This requires us to have some fun in our daily interactions. Even a surprise or a romantic outing can add to the joy of getting along. This will make your marital life full of anticipation in the mundane, which is more conducive to the coexistence of the two of you.
Third, maintain freshness. Marriage doesn’t pass in just three or five years; it’s about walking together for a lifetime. If he knew everything about you and could finish reading it in just one or two years, then asking him to spend a lifetime on it would probably be too tormenting for him. So, you need to constantly update and enrich yourself, and give him enough novelty. Only then will he have enough patience to get along with you and understand you. Your marriage will naturally be stable.
Qing gradually made changes in the three aspects mentioned above. Before she knew it, she found that getting along in marriage was not as difficult as she had imagined.
