In our daily life, we can often see that two people who were originally deeply in love and could have held hands successfully miss out on a good relationship because they are afraid of being rejected when confessing their feelings. It has to be said that this result is truly a pity. In order for us to leave no regrets and start this wonderful emotional experience, if we do the following three aspects, our confession will be successful.
Haste makes waste. It’s very important to be friends first
This is the most fundamental step. When many people see their beloved other half, they always rack their brains, thinking about how to use all kinds of sweet words and what gifts to give to carry out a “carpet bombing”, as if they are going to give everything they have to be good to that person. This idea is good, but it lacks skills and often backfires. There is an old saying in our country that goes, “One should not visit the Three Treasures Hall for no reason.” It can be said that the purpose of doing this is very strong and it is easy for the other party to notice, causing vigilance. A sensible person can tell at a glance what you are thinking in your heart.
Confessing your love to someone without knowing them well can easily give others the impression of being frivolous, impetuous and immature, which is not good. Therefore, before confessing your love to the other person, we should first be friends, very good friends. During the contact, get to know each other. Promote the relationship between each other through joint activities; At the same time, one can understand the other person’s inner thoughts and the emotional life they yearn for. Silently nourishing all things, one gives the other person a good impression without realizing it. Everything seems natural and logical, rather than deliberately done, showing purposeful actions.
Seize the right moment, take care of your emotions, and the other person’s state is very important
Everyone experiences different things at different times and places, which makes the timing of confessing one’s love particularly important. It can be imagined that if the other person has just experienced some negative events recently, the effect of confessing one’s love will naturally be twice the effort and half the result. So, how can we know the other person’s state of mind at present? Or rather, what should we do to be the safest? You can observe her from the activities around her: First, look at her social media. Some recent posts can well reflect her status. Secondly, since you have become good friends, you can send some messages to learn about each other’s recent life. Finally, judging from the tone of communication, if the reply is just a few words and shows no intention of continuing the conversation, then it is definitely not suitable to confess at present.
At this point, what we can do is to help her relieve her dissatisfaction and sadness, or go out for a walk together, and give her a hand when she needs help the most. Show more care and be more attentive. Take this as an opportunity to let the other person know that you are someone you can rely on, laying a solid foundation for future confessions.
Confessing your love should also be timely, and choosing the right place is also very important
Psychologists once conducted an experiment in Capilano Park, Canada. The results showed that the men who participated in the experiment on the dangerous suspension bridge called the female investigators the most. And in the stories they fabricated, there were more elements of love and affection, which is known as the suspension bridge effect.
The principle lies in that due to dangerous situations, people will unconsciously have a faster heart rate, mistakenly interpreting the faster heart rate caused by such situations as a physiological reaction that occurs when the other person makes their heart flutter, thus causing the other person to develop feelings of love. Of course, we mustn’t deliberately go to some dangerous scenes, but the corresponding urgent atmosphere can still be created. For instance, watching a horror movie, playing some thrilling rides in an amusement park, and then taking this opportunity to express your love while it’s still hot can quickly bring the two of you closer.
In fact, as long as it is based on mutual understanding, choosing the right time and place to confess, and accurately grasping the other person’s state of mind, the probability of a successful confession is very high. Don’t miss a good match out of fear anymore. One day, we will surely be gratified for our bravery today.
